Divorcé's Guide to Marriage

We are certainly not marriage therapist here at DWCM, but we do deal with married couples quite often.  Being married myself I thought that the following WSJ article gave some really good ideas about how to keep your marriage growing, prosperous, and happy.

• People who lose the most important relationship of their life tend to spend some time thinking about what went wrong. If they are at all self-reflective, this means they will acknowledge their own mistakes, not just their ex's blunders. And if they want to be lucky in love next time, they'll try to learn from these mistakes.
• Dr. Orbuch has been conducting a longitudinal study, funded by the National Institutes of Health, collecting data periodically from 373 same-race couples who were between the ages of 25 and 37 and in their first year of marriage in 1986, the year the study began. Over the continuing study's 25 years so far, 46% of the couples divorced—a rate in line with the Census and other national data. Dr. Orbuch followed many of the divorced individuals into new relationships and asked 210 of them what they had learned from their mistakes. (Of these 210, 71% found new partners, including 44% who remarried.) This is their hard-earned advice.
• Boost your spouse's mood
• Talk more about money
• Get over the past
• Blame the relationship
• Reveal more about yourself