A Field Guide to the Middle-Class U.S. Family

Interesting research from UCLA who studied 32 families in CA.  The over riding factor in the study seemed to center around the dependence of children rather than the independence that parents strive to teach their children.

Among the findings according to this WSJ article

• The families had very a child-centered focus, which may help explain the "dependency dilemma" seen among American middle-class families, says Dr. Ochs. Parents intend to develop their children's independence, yet raise them to be relatively dependent, even when the kids have the skills to act on their own, she says.
• In addition, these parents tended to have a very specific, idealized way of thinking about family time, says Tami Kremer-Sadlik, a former CELF research director who is now the director of programs for the division of social sciences at UCLA. These ideals appeared to generate guilt when work intruded on family life, and left parents feeling pressured to create perfect time together. The researchers noted that the presence of the observers may have altered some of the families' behavior.